penerimaan perempuan terhadap lelaki tiada teruna

Children nowadays are more interested in the issue of dara and teruna rather than sociology or morphology. I wonder why. Maybe their mutations are growing faster than what we expected. Durrhh. Luckily they are still human, not a mutant.

Okay back to the topic. Selalu kalau malam pertama suami kecoh je nak tau si isteri ni masih dara atau tak. Cuba kalau si isteri yang tanya: "Abang, abang ni teruna lagi dak?" Mak aiiihhh. Lepas tu mulalah tergagap-gagap nak jawab. Si isteri punyalah suci sampai pegang tangan lelaki pun tak pernah walhal si suami macam harem, Cina Melayu India Arab Niger semua dia pernah rembat. 1 Malaysia la katakan. Haa how about this one :

"Saya tokse kawen dengan awok sebab awok rajim tido dengan tino lain."

Phewww~ Walaweh. Statement tak leh blah, boleh pengsan wa cakap lu. Meleleh menangis air mata darah la jawabnye. Lol.

gambar sekadar hiasan, tiada kaitan dengan entry

Well Im not going to condemn any man or any woman as well. Dara ke, teruna ke, lantak hangpa la. But brothers and sisters, let me tell you something.

In Islam, what's in the past is forgiven with some conditions. First, you really do your tawbah (taubat nasuha) because of the deep regret. Second, you have to make promise that you will never repeat the same mistakes or sins again.  During the time of Rasulullah (pbuh), there is one man called Ma'iz committed a zina. He confessed to Rasulullah s.a.w and he demanded that he'll be punished by his wrong doing. Then he was buried until the upper part of his body remained. All of para sahabat cursed him. Rasulullah s.a.w knew about that and said "Wallahi Ma' iz had done tawbah, if compared it's the same as all sahabah entered Jannah." Meaning here, walaupun Ma'iz tu pernah berzina, tetapi disebabkan dia telah bertawbah, ianya diibaratkan seperti seluruh sahabat masuk syurga.

Let's say one day korang dapat tahu yang suami or isteri korang pernah commit the wrong doing.You hate your husband/wife because he or she had done something wrong in the past and you said that "Everything about you is bad." But you forget about the best things that they did for you just because of their past mistakes. You never realize that even no one in this world can do the same as they did. My dear, sedangkan Rasulullah yang mulia mengampunkan ummatnya, apatah lagi kita insan biasa yang beriman taqlid, iman yang mudah rapuh dimakan anai-anai.

Oh come on beb. We are all sinners.  What makes us different from each other is our Iman, Amal and our tawbah. Only Rasul and Nabi are maksum because their heart are cleaned. Thus, who are we to judge people?

When you did wrong doing and there's no one know about it, that's mean Allah covers you, you only have to do tawbah and don't reveal the sin because it's only between you and Allah. Tawbah is not for them who insist not to do the same sins. There's one hadith said that : "When tears dropped because of remembering Allah during night, insha Allah the hell fire will not touch you." When Allah gives you hidayah, that's mean He gaves you light. As you committed wrong doing, do tawbah and replace the dark spot in your heart with a good thing.You have to make U-turn 360 celcius to go back to Quran and sunnah.

One more thing, you don't want to marry that person because you afraid that he or she might be the wrong one. To make it clear, I once had asked my lecturer upon this thing:

Me: Ustaz, how to know whether he's the right one for me? I mean how to know that I don't make the wrong choice?


Ustaz: If you want to marry someone, there's some conditions that should be considered. First, you have to know his akhlak in the present. He might be a bad person in the past but if he changed, you can look into second condition. You have to know his religious duty as well, whether he did perform enough solat, fasting and so on. Second, check on his family whether he comes from the good Muslim family or vice versa. Third, know his friends and people around him. Next, I will continue later.. (he was rushing to go to other class :-P)

Beloved friends, ketahuilah bahawa cinta sejati itu ialah pada orang yang memahami masa silam anda, mempercayai masa depan anda, dan sedia menerima anda dalam apa jua keadaan sekalipun.


"And in the end it's not the years in your life that count but life in your years." - Abraham Lincoln.

Baarakallahufikum fiiamaanillah, Allah Ya Kareem..